Dear Mamas,
How are you today? I mean really, How are you? Not the typical "I'm fine" response but the "I've got a billion things to do but don't know where to start" response. We've all been there. Some of us are there now, myself included.
Currently my son is in another state with his Mimi & Pa and my husband is at work. I have all day to myself to get everything done that I need and want to but yet I find myself feeling overwhelmed, like time is running out and not a reason in the world to feel this way.
My husband expects nothing of me when he walks in the door except a hug and a kiss & my son won't be home for another day.
The problem is me. I put all the pressure on myself to make everything "perfect" and that's silly because perfect doesn't exist.
Here's My Morning in numbers.
45-Minutes Slept In
1- Cup of Coffee
2-Daily Devotionals
3-Yoga Routines
1-Load of Laundry
2-Beds with Fresh Linens
2-Freshly Dusted Bedrooms
20-Friend in the Sunshine Snail Mail Event
1-Freshly Mopped Kitchen Floor
By most accounts i've gotten a lot done & I see that but to me, it's not enough. I want to get it all done and have time to take care of me and enjoy my hobbies. As I go into 2016 this is what I want to work on. This is my goal. To stop putting off my hobbies and ME time for when I find the time. Time isn't going to present itself in a pretty little package, tied with a bow. I have to make time to enjoy what it is that makes my heart happy. I'm not going to let my everyday, mundane chores control my life anymore. I often tell people that the most important thing is to take care of themselves first because if we aren't our best selves then we can't be the best Mom, Wife, Daughter, Sister, Friend, for anyone else. I think it's time for me to take my own advice.
2016 is going to be the year I truly take care of myself by allowing myself the down time to enjoy my hobbies, my friends, and my family more because that load of laundry will be there when I get to it but the people on my life, including myself may not be there when I finally "have" time for them.
2016 is the year I let go of the word perfection & my idea of it. It's the year i'm more graceful with myself. More gentle on myself. More loving to me.
Join me in 2016 in letting go of perfection and taking more time for yourself. Be graceful and gentle on yourself. And forgive yourself more.
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Sounds like you are going to have an awesome 2016!!! You go girl.
ReplyDeleteThank You! I sure hope so!!
DeleteTaking care of oneself is so important for mamas everywhere! I'm learning how to do this. For me it's about having hobbies. I haven't had my own hobbies in the last two years, so I'm using my blogging to serve as a hobby. I'm also channeling my creativity by beginning to paint and illustrate things everyday.
ReplyDeleteIt's so important to take care of ourselves. It's been one of my major game changers in the last few months. I've become such a happier, more focused person by taking care of myself. Hobbies are super important, no matter what your hobby is. It's definitely refreshing to do something you enjoy, even if it's only for 5 minutes a day.
DeleteYou are so right - I do the same thing! I also put the pressure on myself and it's so true that sometimes it is best to push the pause button and do something for ourselves! Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteIt's so important to press pause and take a breather for ourselves sometimes. A major part of that is learning when to say no. It's okay to do that sometimes too. Happy New Year to you too!!!
DeleteI love your notion that me time is important and that we not only need to make time for it but also that we need to be kind and gentle to ourselves. What a lovely reminder.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your sweet comment. It's so true that we need to take time for ourselves. If we're not the best us possible then how are we supposed to take care of anyone else?
DeleteI really love this post, and it's funny how when you put everything you accomplish in a day in writing, you are able to see how much you really do. We can sometimes be our own worst enemies in putting added pressure on ourselves to get everything done, and I really like your goals in learning to live and let go of the idea of perfectionism. Thanks for sharing this very inspiring post! :)
ReplyDeleteThank You for your comment! It's so easy to be our worst enemies and break ourselves down but when you put your day into numbers, I find that you realize how much you get done and that should be what we focus on. Going into 2016, I want to focus on that and letting go of perfection! You're so welcome for this post. I'm glad that you found inspiration in it! Happy New Year!
DeleteI also hope to spend more time on me, family, friends, and the boyfriend. I feel like I dedicated a lot of time to my outside of work organizations and lost some very valuable time with those I truly care about. I feel like a lot of us carry the weight of trying to be superwoman and do it all. I also hope to remind myself that I am human and not perfect. 2016 will be OUR year! Great post! Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteThank You for your comment! I'm so glad you enjoyed it! This post doesn't just relate to motherhood, it's about all women and the pressure we put on ourselves to be superwoman. It's okay that we aren't though and it's okay to take a breather and focus on ourselves. As we go into 2016, we need to all remember that we're human and not perfect. I think we'll all be happier that way. Happy 2016!
DeleteI agree with the me time being needed. It means I have to get up a little earlier but it is completely worth it!
ReplyDeleteIt really is worth it. In 2016 I want to challenge everyone to take a little more time for themselves. I used to be a sleeper. I'd sleep until 45 minutes before I had to leave and it was okay for me but i've since started getting up at least an hour before I have to leave and it makes all the difference in the way I feel through out the day.
DeleteTotally agree with you! Don't try to do it all, mama and be OK with that. :) You ARE doing enough and living a non-perfect life is totally fine. Making time for yourself is SO important for YOU and your family.
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Thank You for your comment! You're so right, its okay not to be perfect and living a non perfect life is amazing. I think we all need the reminder that we ARE doing enough sometimes. ;)
DeleteThis was such a sweet post! It seems like you have so many great things in store for 2016 - Happy New Year! :)
ReplyDeleteThank You so much for your comment. You made me smile really big! My hope with this blog is that I try to make a difference and spread some happiness!
DeleteI love your mindset here! Being a mom is so hard but it's awesome too! You are doing great! Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteThank You so much! Being a mom is one of the hardest things we'll ever do but you're so right, it's so awesome. That's why it's important to take time for ourselves and let go of the idea of perfection. Happy New Year to you, too!
DeleteI so understand! When you have a chunk of time it's like you are worried you are misusing that time and wasting it. I get anxious too with that time and wander in aimless circles lol. I like the breakdown, a little productivity, exercise, cleaning, etc. Good balance. Hope you enjoy the break!
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